lil excerpts taken from the book "Quarter-life
Crisis"

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when
you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing that there are a lot of things about
yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You
start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be
in a year or two, but then get scared because you
barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and
that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were
so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met and the people you have lost touch
with are some of the most important ones. What you
do not realize is that they are realizing that too
and are not really cold or catty or mean or
insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what
you thought you would be doing or maybe you are
looking for one and realizing that you are going to
have to start at the bottom and are scared.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of
socializing with the same people on a constant
basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't
so great after all. You are beginning to understand
yourself and what you want and do not want.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging a bit
more than usual because suddenly you realize that
you have certain boundaries in your life and add
things to your list of what is acceptable and what
is not.

You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry
with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone
and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the
enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear
life but soon realize that the past is drifting
further and further away and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed
and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough
to get to know better. You love someone but maybe
love someone else too and cannot figure out why you
are doing this because you are not a bad person.

You go through the same emotions and questions over
and over and talk with your friends about the same
topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and
making a life for yourself and while winning the
race would be great, right now you'd just like to be
a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading
this relates to it. We are in our best of times and
our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to
figure this whole thing out.


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SING as if no one is listening
DANCE as if no one is watching
LOVE as if you've never been hurt
LIVE as if there is no tomorrow...

just a forward i got from my buddy cat...i remember i used to always put up that last quote on the board at our columbia apartment...ahhh those days were fun..so from the excerpt of this book..does that mean i'm dwelling on the past too much?...oh well who cares??...but i think i may just go out and buy this book..cuz it's true...being in the young adult stage is hard..having to make decisions about work/finances/adjusting to home...it's really hard...ahh well...time to go...another day..another night...

--aloha and mahalo...belle=)